At wits ends

When we shared the news that Moo is going to have a sibling to family and friends, almost everyone had to say the same thing – this time it will be a boy.

Second variation – One of each and your family is complete.

Third variation – Oh there is nothing wrong with another girl..but wouldn’t it be wonderful to have a boy.

Last and final variation on getting ‘the look’ from me – Anyways it doesn’t matter boy or girl healthy baby only we wish for you.

I’ll not get into the much discussed gender equality across many mediums since internet boomed. Yeah we know no distinction against boy and girl, but when well read and people our age group say such things you don’t care anymore about how deep age old beliefs have been entrenched into the mind.

On the contrary every non-Indian stranger who heard or saw us with two daughters told when are we planning for our third and how wonderful it will be for a third daughter. Apparently having girls is considered extremely good, the more the better 😄 which is another kind of favouritism which I again feel weird about.

What I will get into today is our comebacks for the first type of comments. I honestly didn’t expect Zack to tell these things to his family, but hey looks like good company is rubbing off 😎😎

MIL: Another girl, oh oh. Are you sad? Would have been good if it was a boy.

Zack: Oh not sad at all. I know I will have only have girls.

MIL got audibly flabbergasted 😂

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Relative Aunty: Aiyyo, another girl aa.

Zack: Yeah yeah, not too difficult to raise another one. Moo has given enough experience.

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Same Aunty as above: Two girls shabba

Me: All babies need same about of love and attention. All babies when they grow up give same amount of frustration.

Aunty gasping for air after laughing out loud

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Family friend: It will be nice to have a boy this time. Not much shopping options for clothes but something new!

Me: How about NO shopping at all! Not much to shop except newborn stuff. So many of Moo’s good clothes to reuse.

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Family friend 2’s mum: The way you are carrying its 100% boy. Anyways with one girl you should have one boy.

Me 4 days past my due date: Aunty, during Moo’s time also same thing people said. You should instead guess when will I go into labour.

Family friend 2’s mum: That nature will decide.

Me: And who decides whether baby is boy or girl

Family friend 2’s mum: I’ll go make some tea

😂

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Moo’s friend’s mum: So what do you feel you are having this time? What’s your gut feeling

3 month pregnant me: I feel it’s a girl. Same kinda morning sickness, same kinda weight gain.

Moo’s friend’s mum: Oh is it, nice nice. But I wish you have a boy this time. One of each.

3 month pregnant me: Haha, be it a boy or girl, can’t wait to sink into the newborn scent and cuddles.

Moo’s friend’s mum: Yeah yeah ofcourse whatever it is is ok, should be healthy that’s all.

3 month pregnant me: Then everything is dependent on me, healthy mum healthy bub. And healthy me means eat, see and talk only happy things.

Moo’s friend’s mum changes topic getting the hint 😎😎😎

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SIL: You have to start saving money from now itself, you have to marry off two daughters.

Me: And what does marriage have to do with our savings? They can earn and spend their money on their weddings. And from what I know of Moo she will be the one demanding money from the boy’s family to pitch in for the wedding costs. Wants everything equal you see.

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Visha’s haphazards – 1

Ask and ye shall receive Tharani darling..now go ahead and enjoy!

Bonus – I will make this a series if you get full marks 🤓

1. What are the colours you like but the colours you wear?

2. How many tabs is your phone browser having open right now?

3. Biryani tastes better next day or third?

4. What do you do with a gift that you don’t want or need but who gave is important to you?

5. If you were a fruit what fruit would you be? And why?

6. How do you tell your neighbour to share what they are cooking because it’s so damn delicious but you scolded their child yesterday for breaking your window?

7. If you had to live on a treehouse for two nights what all things will you carry? ( tech devices not allowed )

8. Your hairdresser coloured your hair red instead of brown. What is your comeback when your family sees you.

9. Share one situation which made you laugh uncontrollably in recent memory.

Fellow bloggers and readers and stalkers and marathoners, if you find this tag interesting please take it up and link it to me. I have to mark your answers no 🤓🤣

Of learning something new today

So when I was browsing social media today I came across a word which was hard enough for me to pronounce as well as I had never heard of it before. Curiosity got better of me and I googled it because it was mentioned in the bio of the Instagram page I was browsing.

Enneagram

Meaning 1 – is a model of the human psyche which is principally understood and taught as a typology of nine interconnected personality types.

Meaning 2 – a nine-sided figure used in a particular system of analysis to represent the spectrum of possible personality types.

It’s wiki has an interesting documentation. I hadn’t read about this before nor came across this in any discussion. There are nine personality types apparently and they are all inter related too.

1 THE REFORMER

The Rational, Idealistic Type: Principled, Purposeful, Self-Controlled, and Perfectionistic

2 THE HELPER

The Caring, Interpersonal Type: Demonstrative, Generous, People-Pleasing, and Possessive

3 THE ACHIEVER

The Success-Oriented, Pragmatic Type: Adaptive, Excelling, Driven, and Image-Conscious

4 THE INDIVIDUALIST

The Sensitive, Withdrawn Type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temperamental

5 THE INVESTIGATOR

The Intense, Cerebral Type: Perceptive, Innovative, Secretive, and Isolated

6 THE LOYALIST

The Committed, Security-Oriented Type: Engaging, Responsible, Anxious, and Suspicious

7 THE ENTHUSIAST

The Busy, Fun-Loving Type: Spontaneous, Versatile, Distractible, and Scattered

8 THE CHALLENGER

The Powerful, Dominating Type: Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational

9 THE PEACEMAKER

The Easygoing, Self-Effacing Type: Receptive, Reassuring, Agreeable, and Complacent

In popular culture there are people who use the types to see if they are compatible or not. Like can type 2 gel with type 9. I hit few other keywords and there was a whole lot of videos and blogposts digging deeper into this world but my actual world started a screaming opera session which bought be back to my senses and I left it at it.

So many interesting things out there no 🙃

Tell me, have you heard of this concept before? If I look for myself I am part 4 and part 9. They should have added a 10th type 😂

Which type are you out of these 9 😃

References: https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/type-descriptions

http://www.jaymedenwaldt.com/2019/01/the-enneagram-science-and-christianity.html?m=1