U, me aur family

The running joke in the family is that in case we have any wedding to be conducted, there is no need to call any guests.

No, we are not anti-social πŸ˜›

The sheer number of relatives will suffice you see πŸ˜€ (the last time we did a head count, it was 73)

Having belonged to a nuclear family all my life before marriage, suddenly seeing so many people around me at any given time wasΒ so overwhelming that I used to freak out. Poor Zack – he would be at his wit’s end thinking what did he do wrong πŸ˜›

You must have heard about the notion that post-marriage the couple, especially the girl puts on weight. No, it’s not the ‘love’ πŸ˜›

It’s the ‘n’ number of sweets which are fed to you – irrespective of the nature of time and duration.Β To see the newly wedded couple (read – us), relatives would be trooping in day and day out. Every one would have at least one mithai ka dabba with them. No matter how much you try to escape, you eventually get defeated by looking into their loving eyes. Zack conveniently devised a way for himself , saying I-dont-have-a-sweet-tooth-but-Visha-has-dont-just-give-her-one-give-two-three-sweets-she-will-like-it,Β taking a tiniest possible portion of the offered delicacy and then passing the rest on to me.

Come to think of it , may be thats why I was wide-eyed all time, seeing so many people with sweets and thinking about the impending disaster waiting to hit me (read- weight gain).

Wedding alters your life in many different ways – some good, some bad.

Good that I do not have to worry about the evening dinner if I am unwell, one phone call is all I need to make to get super delicious food on the table. Bad that I have to spend extra hours in the kitchen during some festival time when I have people dropping by.

Good that I get to play with my nieces, after a hard day at work, nothing is more refreshing than cuddling a two-year old. Bad that I have to give the same treatment to ALL the kids since there is never one without the rest of the toli, thus breaking my back :/

Good that some or the other plan is always on the cards for the weekend – travel, shopping or movies. No bad here πŸ˜› it is left upon me to decide where to go or what to do since I am a new addition.Β 

Yes, there is a definite loss of privacy for Zack and me – no hugging whenever we want, decrease in the ‘us’ time..etc..etc.. 😦

But we have our own ways to spend time with each other. Making it a ritual to have pani-puri together on Friday evenings, going to office together in the morning, long walks on Sunday evenings..etc..etc.. πŸ™‚ πŸ˜‰

Initially I used to dislike the ever-increasing house guests/relatives we had to entertain, but over the period of time I understood how close-knit the family is and I started to respect their love and goodwill for each other. It may sound exaggerating to state that the affection which each member holds for the other is pure – but I am stating the way things are πŸ™‚

P.S Thank you all who took up the tag πŸ™‚


15 thoughts on “U, me aur family

  1. very nicely described that state of mind.. πŸ™‚

    when you move from nuclear family into an extended one, it is certainly a struggle and it comes with its perks and side effects…

  2. Visha,

    You seem to be managing it all so beautifully πŸ™‚ Such a balanced post with you understanding the two sides and still sounding happy ! πŸ™‚

    Really enjoyed reading this πŸ™‚

  3. You are just reading my thoughts here through this post! Just today, my guests left my place after 5 days and now I got the time to check on the blogs *phew*
    And pros and cons you mentioned above- So true! Have experienced every single thing!
    And YES- The weight gain is not LOVE! Huh!!! 😦

    • Oh wow…same pinch here too huh πŸ˜€ πŸ˜€

      5 days..omg..can visualise the ‘mehmaan-nawazi’ πŸ˜‰

      See people, I have CD to support me on the weight gain fact post marriage..yay!!

  4. Looks like both of us got married recently πŸ™‚ I can see why my latest post would have seemed interesting to you.

    And like you, I come from a nuclear set up. And my husband comes from a joint family. It’s fun trying to find a median path.

    Fortunately his family is adorable. So while we have backup in case of an emergency, it’s not like there are too many people interfering in our lives.

    • Heylo Ash πŸ™‚


      haha..am on a stalking spree and your posts were too good to miss πŸ™‚

      Even I hoped for that scenario, wherein the members are not very far – always reachable at any time, somehow it did not turn out that way..striking a balance as of now πŸ™‚

  5. ah you know the ditto happened when we got married only difference being I don’t have the sweet tooth,the Husby has and relatives used to give him multiple servings under the name of ‘you must on your wife’s behalf’ πŸ˜€

    The pleasures of living in a big family…you know what I always dreamed of getting married into a huge family….my side we are not a joint family but we live quiet close to each other’s house so it’s more of a joint than nuclear…but after coming to Husby’s family I had a great disappointment..yeah we are nuclear 😦 and in a literal sense …

    I envy people who live in joint families πŸ™‚ of course there are some drawbacks too but that you’ll find in each type of family set up πŸ™‚

    • Trust me, there have been many times when I wished I was living away from all the madness and noise…whoever coined this ‘the grass is always greener on the other side’ must be great πŸ˜‰

      That said, I agree with you, each family setup has their own pros and cons. Its living with both what needs some effort.

      You maybe living in a nuclear setup in reality, but virtually, you+Husby+Chirpy belong to the big blogging joint family πŸ™‚

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