My office recently shifted closer home, which cut my morning travel with Zack. Earlier, both our offices were 15km from home, and we used to go together and sometimes come back together. On the way back we used to shop some home essentials or catch the hot masala dosa at the eatery. Riding in the pillion seat, I used to continuously yap about the beautiful weather, the snarling traffic, the occasional funny movie poster or what-happened-office today stories. So in a day, I used to spend at least 6 to 7 hours with him.
In 2 weeks, two things happened. And both not compatible to each other, though pretty good in their own stead.
First the office shift. Now the distance is under 5 km. It hardly takes me 15 min to reach the office. Earlier I used to spend 2 hours in the evening traffic to reach home. Anyone living in Bangalore can vouch for the fact that traffic takes away whatever energy you have after slogging in the office. Now a days, since I reach home in less than 30 min even in rush hour traffic, it has given me new hours at my disposal, which has me wondering how to utilize it at the best.
Second, the project which Zack has been working in office has become more taxing and demanding than ever. Even when he is home, he is researching on it and thinking about new ways to improve the performance of his codes. He leaves home by 9 and returns by 10 or 11. On days he is home by 9, he works till 12. Sometimes, he is so much focused into the computer screen, that he is oblivious to the stares of his wife. While his boss is supremely happy with him, I just wish he could give Zack some time and work off at least when he reaches home early. On the rare cases when he has no pending issues to be solved, my workaholic hubby will try to learn something or watch some technical videos online.
These days, we hardly interact with each other. He is so dead tired that he snoozes off soon after the dinner.
I have devised a way to ‘make’ some ‘us’ time.
I write him emails. Long ones. Whatever I want to talk I write.
He reads and replies “Ok” or “Yes”
I am happy 🙂