I have come across such questions a number of times when I pay my shopping bill or pick the dinner tab when we go out with family friends:
“Why you, let your husband pay”
“Wives are meant to spend their husbands money, dont you know?”
My thoughts on hearing such questions – Both of us are working. Both of us are earning. I can take the onus.If he can plan and fund outstation trips, so can I and I do.
My reaction – 🙂
If I feel the need to splurge in a sale or get a pedicure, why is it assumed that I will give Zack’s card and not mine? When Zack’s friend’s wife asked me about this, all I did was to state was it is no big deal. I do not know how she got this conditioning that the guy should be the one who pays always. This, when she herself earns handsomely.
When I discuss these things with Zack, he is not at all perturbed ( that is a decent way of saying he is almost half asleep). He is mightily proud that his wife is financially independent and has no qualms in telling relatives the same. I can recall one incident clearly. We had just done the interiors of our bedroom – the wardrobe, loft and dressing table. Zack’s cousin sister P and her husband C were visiting that weekend. She was eager to see the newly done bedroom and soon dragged her husband with her. After admiring the color and design, she asked how much did it cost. Zack said it costed so and so and added, this is fully financed by Visha. Priceless was the look which was plastered across my MIL – no, it was not shock, it was pride 😉
When I was single and working, I managed my own finances. Nothing has changed after marriage. Zack does not think he needs to provide for me. While we both indulge each other, we respect each other’s take in this matter.
I have no right to say anything where in the wife is the homemaker and the husband has to look into every financial aspect. I have seen my mother and my SIL, who in-spite of being homemakers right from the time they got married, manage to save money for themselves from the monthly budget. My mother’s motto – Saving is earning 😀
As an afterthought, if ever I come across such questions again I am gonna say – I guard my financial independence fiercely 😛
P.S Work and some family commitments are completely draining me, since 2 weeks. The backlog of unread articles in my reader is looking like a hill, am striving not to convert it into a mountain 😀