Silence speaketh

If there is one thing which we share much to the amusement of the family is the silence between us.


I could unabashedly term the family as boisterously loud. The sounds and voices can be heard 3 houses down the road. So it came as a surprise to the family that their new daughter-in-law chose to remain quiet most of the times, unless asked. Even after few months when I rarely joined their upbeat gossips of shopping or family functions, they got curious.  Why does she not join us at all, instead of being a smiling statue, would undoubtedly run in their minds

The funny part here is it’s not that I don’t join them out of any kind of aversion. Or tussles. Ok, I will be a bit frank. There is an inherent quality in the family where everyone has to know everything. Me – I usually mind by own business. Coming to the point – I am equally silent with Zack too. Before you think of me as a weirdo, it’s the same with him. Go ahead, you can call us the weird couple 😀

The family has already labelled us that.

Communication is the key to any kind of relationship. More so, for a marriage. Since we hardly spend 4 waking hours with each other, it gets all the more important to talk,share, discuss. Due to our erratic work schedules, the most we are connected to is via the email ecosystem. Most of the stuff which I want to let him know or vice versa, I jot them down and email him, its become a routine for both of us. From money transfer, ticket booking, bill payment to how new neighbour’s dog is making life difficult for me, how the groom seeking process for the third cousin has started – everything is conveyed using technological bytes and bits. So in the end we are in the know as to what is happening with whom in the family. Since he expresses well in writing rather than in words, there is nothing to complain :mrgreen:

But strangely, when we do get time with each other, it hardly consists of words. There is a comfortable silence in the air. More like the silence speaks for us. On a typical weekend afternoon, he will be browsing the internet or taking a nap. I maybe reading a book or watching the television. Or trying to save his hairs being plucked out violently by the niece. During the evening walks, 80% of the time spent in walking will be in silence.Both of us don’t know how we landed into such a cycle. But then I bet its the long hours we used to spend on phone before marriage that we are tired to speak now 😛

Now this peculiar nature has warranted enough insecurities in the family. They think we are not happy with each other. 🙄 When they see the other DILs of the house yapping with their partners the moment the latter step into the house, I stand out as an odd person who just raises her head a gives a big smile. With a twinkle in the eyes of course 😀 😀 😀
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32 thoughts on “Silence speaketh

  1. lol!!! Even we don’t speak that much, who has the time…:D

    Most of our talkings happen on phone in office when I have the max time 😉

  2. :/ I am afraid if I will get such a husband, he will go mad listening to my blabber 😀 😀 Oh, wait. I will talk as much as I do in normal condition when a guy will come to see me! He wont be my would be ever 😀

    • I see a scheme here to frighten off your prospective grooms… 😛 😛 😛

      Here is my wish – Oh Lord, may Bubblegum have such a partner who enjoys all the blabbering’s and even contributes to it 😀

  3. heheheheh cuties you both are! 🙂

    Oh well, I talk my head off and K bears it. But I am with you on emails as powerful tools, we tease each other on emails and write lovey dovey stuff as well when in office 🙂

    • Right, weirdos though 😉

      Poor K, does he have any choice 😛 He loves you so much that he puts up with every thing related to you 🙂

      I think I will get a notification from the authorities someday…I have blatant disregard for email usage

  4. I am exactly your type Visha, a strong believer of energy conservation 🙂
    till you convey your warm welcome notes with a pleasant smile why would anyone need a loud wordy welcome?
    Hugs!!

  5. he he 🙂 this is actually cute. And you talk most of the time on emails *rolls eyes*

    I am also the silent types but my hubby is a laugh riot so he keeps the house reverberating with his ‘right for the moment’ jokes and I keep laughing 😀

  6. I too am the silent one, with lot of smiles like you. I am known among relatives for that. But I am also not the email/phone types 😦 . But we don’t have the silent time as my hubby talks a lot and I join in. My MIL is very talkative and when we would be in the kitchen, she keeps talking and I do the ‘hhmmms’ and ‘haas’, my FIL always pulls my legs for that.

  7. He he
    I am an introvert through and through, and the OH doesn’t speak too much too (though he is a bit better than me). So I could totally relate to this. 🙂 I don’t find this weird. 🙂 We do talk, but we are comfortable with silence, too. 🙂

  8. Wow all the talks happen in E-mails wow n so cute!! On being silent n not talking much is the same thing here… I used to continuously yap yap but since there is not much reaction from the other side.. Silence is creeped in b/w us too… and sometimes its nice n silence speaks most… But frankly I cant take a lonnnnnnng silence…

    U guys are cute!!

  9. For Geet and Me, sometimes we talk like crazy, yapping for hours and sometimes we are both in for silence. I think each couple is different and they should go ahead with whatever works for them. 🙂

    • We used to be like that….before marriage..our phone call durations would range in short and long hours 😀

      Thats why I think its polar opposite now 😆

      Yes, each couple is unique 🙂

  10. lol.. i think its only btn me and my hubby.. always thought its because of the long talks before marriage.. :). our talks too happen only on phone, which lasts for few minutes, mine is like this b’cas of the distance relationship we are maintaining .. 🙂

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