One thought is bothering me for a long time. Especially when I observe other couples around me, amongst friends and family having disagreements with each other, rising decibel levels when they talk, lowered patience levels and to sum it all, having fights.
We never fight.
And I do not know if it is good or bad 😐
I have read many articles* which say fighting couples are in a healthy relationship. The difference of opinion brings them closer. The kinds.
But the most we ‘fight’ is not talk with each other. How is the problem or issue sorted out?One gives in by the way of explaining things calmly while the other listens patiently. The night passes. Morning everything is forgotten and forgiven. And we move on. Bad words and swearing never occur, nor do name-calling. Shouting at each other will not happen in this lifetime because its loudness makes me cringe.
This morning when we were stuck up at the traffic jam, I was mentioning to Zack how come we never fight with each other, unlike other usual couples. Immediately he said, “But you cried your eyes out two weeks ago”. “Yeah, but it was not your fault”, I shot back. The guy becomes all smug now.”So I am the model husband who never fights with the wife”. “Because you have a very non-confrontational wife”, I explained
So it comes down to this – is it normal amongst guys never to fight or is it me who is having a dysfunctional relationship with the partner 🙄 🙄