“Aiyoo, why are you doing this chutney like this? You should always put garlic, dont forgot from now on, ok?”
After some months
“Adada, todays chutney is tasting so good. From now on, you should make this chutney in this way only”
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My MIL is 38 years older than me. So that equates to a double generation gap. What I say and follow is way different than what she believes and does. There is no instance where we do not have a difference of opinion. Right from how to make the food to how to organize the pooja room to how to serve the guests to how to choose sarees for gifting to how to raise children. With time, I learnt to respect her point of view and started doing stuff in a way which made her see and understand my point of view, eventually settling down for the best point of view 😀
She is a firm believer of cooking more than what is actually required. If four persons have to eat rice, after the meal is over, two people can eat the leftover rice, that much extra she will cook. Now I am opposite. My serving bowls will be empty when all have been fed. I told her umpteen times to keep the rice as per the requirement, but she would always say we can use the leftover rice the next day and recycle it. It so happened that the few times when I cooked the rice, she noted how there was no leftovers and everyone always ate hot rice, instead of re-heating and eating the old one. Now the situation is such that when we have ten people for dinner, she will only ask me to cook the rice.
It took me long to understand her saree preferences. It used to break my heart when she used to give away the sarees I bought for her, to her sister who simply loved my selections. The choices she makes on prints and colors, I would never go for them. When one day I was looking through the haul which she and the rest of the ladies had looted from a saree shop for an occasion, I made peace with the fact that her liking’s are different. Not just with me, but with the rest of the ladies too. When everyone went for bright colors with thick borders, she opted for a dull colors with thin borders. It suited her small and petite frame.
She likes me to load on gold for any wedding we have to attend, while I hate it. I wear one bangle and a watch, skip on heavy chains and opt for a single long chain. She still does not like it, but I compensate by looking after the brood which makes her and the rest of the clan concentrate on the wedding 😛
Happy Sankrati all you lovely people 🙂 We are celebrating Pongal tomorrow and right now we two are in deep discussion whether to make sakkarai pongal with sugar or jaggery 😆 😆