- The year till now has been a mix of good and bad – travel wise good and health wise bad.
- While in my mind I keep saying I am the same, I have changed a lot.
- I have a new love for English romantic movies. Last night, ‘The Notebook’ was seen and relished. We even discussed the movie for about ten minutes, which is completely unusual.
- I have not read a book in the last three months. So, so not me.
- The month long vacation at parent’s place turned out more eventful and beautiful than I had anticipated.
- It has been close to two years since I baked something.
- I am learning how to drive a car. The things my instructor tells me which I must do and what I eventually end up doing are vastly different.
- I miss updating this blog on a regular basis.
- I miss the interaction I used to have with other bloggers here.
- Twitter is a good way to pass time.
- Instagram is very addictive. But very contradictory. Fitness pages inspire you to work the hell out, and the next feed will be of delicious food which will throw the ten minute easy workout out of the mind.
- I am still undecided on whether to get a 9 to 5 job or be a stay-at-home mom.
- On Sunday, I went out wearing a short kurti and harem pants. They did not match but I did not care!
- The peas carrot pulao which I made for lunch today turned out very delicious.
- I need to learn new hairstyles. Getting tired of braiding my hair everyday.
- Did you know cheese spreads come in oh so many flavors? I found out just today.
- The speed of the teller at the bank is inversely proportional to your urgency to leave the premise.
- The day I make innovative plans to spend time with the husband is the day we do not even speak with each other.
- I lost weight. People want to know how that happened. I am on everybody’s to-discuss list you know.
- The urge to shop online has vanished. I am back to unearthing my old clothes and wearing them as if they were new.
- I like the memes circulating in Facebook related to movies.
- Riding a bike is way better than riding a car. So easy to move in traffic.
- We shopped for gold jewelry today.
- I heard from many people today via WhatsApp and Facebook.
- Because its my birthday today. Otherwise why would many people think about it 😆
- I had a good day today.
- I turn 27. Is that young or old? #whattodoanyway
There are two months which I look forward to, every year. July and February. The latter, only since 2 years 😛
But I have been in love with July forever. It has the most number of birthdays. If I take out a calendar and start circling the D-days, only seven days are ‘normal’ days, the rest are special, birthdays of people long-lost and newly found, of family and friends, of neighbors and acquaintances. The school academic terms would finally see a semblance after starting mid-June, with new students and new teachers, only to get disrupted by sudden rains. What joy it would be to cycle down to school in the rains, to hear the announcement that classes have been dismissed, the ride back home soaking in showers, deliberately taking the longer route.
July would be the start of new semesters in our college. New lecturers, clueless students, over-tired book shop owners, deep waters in the whole sale markets, rain-proofing the new books, endless hours at the bus stop waiting for the always late buses. I being a studious student, would never miss a class come rain or shine. Still remember wading deep, deep waters to reach the college gates because the bus driver refused to go ahead
Birthdays coupled with rains made me fall in love with July more and more. A recently joined employee has her birthday a day later. When I checked with her, to confirm if I was not wrong, she could not control her excitement and started describing her birthday rituals. I had a perfect start to the first Monday of the second half of this year.
Special days like anniversaries and birthdays paint a bright picture which includes celebrations, laughter and of course food 😉
I was accustomed to seeing this image when I was single. Agreed – it would be simple, without much fan-fare and parties, there would be no cake cutting when I was with my parents – birthdays were still special – awesome food the whole day, outing and pampering the whole day long 😀
But thanks to my erratic family-in-law, discussing about this picture or implementing this makes me an outcast and a laughing-stock in my family.
How you ask?
On any special day like a birthday or someone’s anniversary, I will be very happy, visualising everyone discussing the ‘special’ day. When I see no one even mentioning the event, I will ask out aloud, it’s so and so’s birthday/anniversary, have you all forgotten or what. I will get bewildered looks and an answer nevertheless, Oh is it, we forgot about it completely, good that we have you who has a good memory. Zack will be beaming seeing his wife getting complimented while I will be at loss of words. I wont get the gist and continue foolishly, So what is the gift and where is the party. There will be laughter echoing throughout the house. What are we, little kids? No party and all, we will go to the temple and that’s it.
Now don’t get me wrong, folks who are over 50 telling this to me is completely understandable. But I had to hear this from
- my brother-in-law on his 8th marriage anniversary ( I’ll be honest – this is somewhat acceptable since he is 35)
- from my dear hubby on his 28th birthday ( I had married him exactly 18 days ago, so I thought for my sake he is willing to keep it simple, since I was new to the city and he did not wish to have me wander off to buy a surprise gift or arrange a get-together and get lost)
- from my niece on her 11th birthday.This was a true face-palm event for me. While I asked her mom as to why she is acting like a 65-year-old granny, I was told they had celebrated the 10th birthday in a grand way and they are now waiting for another 7 years to make her 18th year a special one. Small joy indeed – said my mind 🙂
So after a lot of observations and permutations/combinations of the ages,I came to this conclusion. With my family-in-law, days like birthdays and anniversaries of over 25’s are strictly restricted to a visit to the temple early in the morning. For under 10’s, it is a cake cutting ceremony and a dinner on a weekend irrespective of which day the birthday falls. For the rest of the souls, that is over 10’s and under 25’s – it is either a mix of both or one or the other.
I do not have any grudge against getting up early and going to the temple, but on special days, there should be something which is out of routine. Like a movie or shopping or an elaborate dinner at home. My family-in-law did not see a radical nutcase like me with them for a long time. Hence when I brought about some changes in the way special days are celebrated, it was not met with appreciation at first, but slowly it was accepted 🙂
Zack’s 29th birthday was celebrated with a visit to the temple early in the morning ( the family will ostracize me if this is avoided ), since it was a working day – what all I had planned had to be done in the night only. So we cut a nice cake at about 10 in the night, followed by gifts and yummy dinner.
Now it also does not help when yours truly has a number of special days apart from birthdays and anniversaries. I am such a weirdo that I will go on looking for something notable which is worth celebrating on any given day. In my defence, I would say since it is already a hectic life, why not go out looking for small joys and bring out some cheer.
Did I hear someone say – typical girlie stuff ? You bet 😛
When I gifted Zack a huge rose on the morning of our first-meet-anniversary, he was shocked beyond words.
( what-the-hell-is today look ) “What is this Visha”
( beaming to the core ) “Happy meet anniversary Zack”
( Is she out-of-her-mind look ) “Happy whaatt??”
( as if I am explaining him the obvious ) “Meet anniversary dear..today is the day we met for the first time”
( struck by a hammer look ) “Is it..ok ok..”
And so it has been for a number of small anniversaries. The day I came to his house, the day I wrote him the first email, etc..etc..
Zack: How come you manage to remember all those dates?
Me: Dunno how, it just stays. Something special to celebrate on a seemingly routine and normal day. What say?
Zack: Haha, that’s so true dear.
Incidentally, today is also an anniversary. This day, two years ago, he called me for the first time. When I wrote to him about this in his daily morning email, this is his reply – Happy talking anniversary… 🙂