On a midsummer afternoon

Today was a very very long day. I say so because I find the days flying by off late but today not so much. Maybe because we packed too many things into it? 

It was a warm and glorious summer day, quite unlike the many weeks of cold and rain which we were having in peak summer. On the agenda was only two things for the day – a trip to the post office to send a parcel and a pick up of an organiser to be done two streets away. Weekends are always late in our household and today was no exception. By the time everyone had taken a bath and had had breakfast it was 11. The post office on Saturday closes at 12 so Zack and Moo were booted out to do the two chores as quickly as possible. 

I was in no mood to make an elaborate lunch since Aunt Flo made herself comfortable first thing in the morning. Made a thin coconut-tamarind gravy to go with rice within 15 min ( let me know if you want the recipe ) and Moo said she will make French fries for sides. To please her I let her cut the potato in the shape of the fries but then started adding many things which ended up in a delicious crunchy fries. We also had curd with rice and fries because everyone knows the combo is a flavour bomb right. 

I had been meaning to check out IKEA for their cast iron cookware so we decided to head over there first and then sit in some park nearby to take advantage of the beautiful warm afternoon. But has anyone ever come out quickly from that shop? We didn’t even venture to any other section for even window shopping to save time but still ended up walking so much through many sections to reach the billing counter. Moo was super tired by then and to cheer her up we got her the cinnamon bun from their shop, which she dutifully gave half nibbled back to me 🙄 Out of habit we also paid a visit to a Turkish eatery which makes the best gozlemes ( think spinach and feta cheese stuffed parathas ) according to us 🤤 We order only one but it fills us all.

I so wanted to go to the park nearby but it was jam packed and no parking was available. Thinking we could as well do the grocery shopping for the week we came back home, freshened up a little and went to do another haul. It took us two hours in all to be back again to have a delicious dinner of store bought frozen parathas and left over curries from past two days. Ended the meal with a juicy and sweet mango and called it a day. 

I had a completely different idea to write upon today (on the baby), but somehow the happenings of this happy Saturday couldn’t stop me from penning it down.

Hope you all have a good weekend!

Encompassed lives

The sisters were each others best friends. They did not have a social circle, since theirs was a conservative family. The cousins themselves were more than enough to have other kids play with them. They could not finish school due to financial constraints. One left the other after marriage to settle down in another city, faraway. They wrote letters to each other about the daily going ons. Telephone was a luxury accessory, only the most important news was conveyed using it. In-laws, husband, kids consumed their lives, leaving very precious time for themselves. When summer vacations used to start, either one of them would promptly visit the other with her brood. Pickles and appalams would be made and relished.

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Time passed and the kids started college. A new world opened to them to discuss. College, stream, books, lecturers, universities, college festivals. They had never been to college, but their kids’ stories reveled them. The elder one used to call up the younger one and discuss about which saree should she buy to make her daughter look pretty during the farewell party. The younger one would ask about which dishes to make, to impress her son’s friends who visited.

Empty nest syndrome set in when their sons graduated and moved on abroad for higher studies, while their daughters got married and pursued their careers in different cities with their husbands. The days are now passed on reading old magazines and watching TV most of the time. The younger one called the elder one excitedly one day and talked at length about the yoga group, who diligently meet at the park everyday and consist of similarly aged ladies. She described how they also hold kitty parties and organize spiritual meetings and wondered aloud if she should join them as she could certainly do with some company. The elder one sat bemused, thinking how if the ‘groups’ are springing all over, everywhere. She too had heard from her maid about one such group led by a senior member, who organises crafts, yoga sessions, meditations and evening walks. With a hearty laugh, she continued the phone call with the information about her neighbourhood also having one such group.

 

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The lengthy discussions have again started. Which footwear is best for morning walks? Noodles and pasta can be counted as snacks or meals? From sharing just their own lives with each other, they have progressed to sharing others lives with each other, and others.

The sisterhood truly expanded.

Philosophy and its implementation

Most of you must have heard of this story. I came across this quite recently and felt it to be implement-worthy, and not one of the kinds where in you say – ‘this does not apply to real life’. If any one of you can point out the source of this story, please let me know. Am more than happy to link it here 🙂

In a forest, a pregnant deer is about to give birth to a baby. It finds a remote grass field nearby a river and slowly goes there thinking it would be safe. As she moves slowly, she gets labour pain.

At the same moment, dark clouds gather around that area and lightning starts a forest fire. Turning left, she sees a hunter who is aiming an arrow from a distance. As she tries to move towards right, she spots a hungry lion approaching towards her.

What can the pregnant deer do, as she is already under labour pain..?

What do you think will happen..?
Will the deer survive..?
Will it give birth to a fawn..?
Will the fawn survive…?

OR

Will everything be burnt by the forest fire…?
Can the deer go left..? No, the hunter’s arrow is pointing at her.
Can she go right…? No, the hungry male lion is approaching her.
Can she move up..? No, there the forest is on fire.
Can she move down..? No, that is where the fierce river is.

Answer: She does nothing. She just focuses on giving birth to a new LIFE..

The sequence of events that happens at that fraction of a second (moment)
are as follows:

In a spur of MOMENT, a lightning strikes, and blinds the eyes of the hunter…!
At that MOMENT, he releases the arrow missing and zipping past the deer…!
At that MOMENT, the arrow hits and injures the lion badly…!
At that MOMENT, it starts to rain heavily and puts out the forest fire…!
At that next MOMENT, the deer gives birth to a healthy fawn…!

In our life too, there are MOMENTS of CHOICE when we all have to deal with
negative thoughts from all sides. Some thoughts are so powerful they
overcome us, and make us clueless.

Anything can happen in a MOMENT in this life. If you are religious,
superstitious, atheist, agnostic or whatever, you can attribute this MOMENT
to divine intervention, faith, sudden luck, serendipity, coincidence, karma,
or a simple ‘I just don’t know’…!

The priority of the deer, in that given moment, was simply giving birth to a
baby, because LIFE IS PRECIOUS…!

Now I went around to implement this story since I read it first.  Must say it helped a lot. To focus on what-must-I-do instead of thinking about the hundreds of what-could-I-do and what-should-I-do. But then life always throws you idiotic scenarios some days. Zack is bugging me to no end off late, with his I-will-work-on-the-laptop-even-if-my-house-is-burning  motto and almost ‘PMS’-y mood swings. I can always throw the heavy telephone directory on his head to make him see some sense, but then I am having a clean record till date, in the area of domestic violence and wish to maintain so :mrgreen: