Tech-ache

With the advent of numerous devices to stay constantly connected to the virtual world, it has drastically reduced the couple time between us. The other times when we could have spent quality time together invariably end up with discussions of the daughter – what she did, her latest tantrums, etc..etc.. It is not quite uncommon for us to exchange WhatsApp chats like “Has the dragon slept?” even when we are a room apart. Zack comes in home at 9:30 and Moo vehemently refuses to go to sleep unless she had her fair share of daddy time. By the time she falls asleep which is around 11, Zack goes neck deep in his laptop in the melee of catching up with news, movies and when not doing all of these things – WhatsApp-ing. His office has such an internet policy which debars him from using social media and basically accessing all things which can be classified under time-pass.

Before we owned the laptop and internet at home, we used to do stuff together- like talk about what happened at work, who got hitched, good vacation spots, family functions..you get the drift. But that was the time before we had Moo. With her arrival, the equations have changed completely. There is a lot more me-time than us-time. From the time Moo wakes up, Zack looks after her till he leaves for work – making her eat breakfast, taking her for walks, putting her to sleep and playing with her. During that time, I finish the household work, cooking, cleaning and sit down for some time reading the newspapers. At night, when I am done with all the work and ready to make the little dragon go to sleep, he leaves us two to ourselves. I cherish this period which I spend with Moo. I (try to) tell her stories, play peekaboo, sing lullabies and finally when she is tired, she comes to me and sleeps on my lap. I am half asleep by the time all the lights are switched off. I was not this tired at the end of the day when Moo was still an infant. Once she started walking, there is not a place which has been undiscovered by her, which does not involve pulling things and throwing them all around, eating and putting all things in mouth except her food, squealing and running away from me when I find her holding something which is not her toy and I admit it tires me out completely at the end of the day. When I speak about the lack of spending time with Zack, he in his zen mode states – “You should rest when she rests.”

So what I think is if we had no smartphones, laptops, basically no internet, we would find at least some time for ourselves. Thank God for weekends, were we go out together for walks or I would have resorted to changing the internet password 👿 😈

Nine Questions on A Monday

Some important, soul stirring and unavoidable questions being asked by my mind-voice and answered by my real-voice. Before the QA session – Hello Internet, good to see you!!

Q1– Why did finish your lunch in such a hurry?

A1– Moo had missed her morning nap and was in a very cranky mood – having already destroyed two tomatoes whose remnants were scattered all over the living room, I did not want her to spoil her dad’s crisply ironed white shirt which was lying on the table and was her next target. So I jumped up as soon as she took the next step, bundled her up in one hand while carrying my lunch plate in the other and noticed the futility of the action – she started bawling her lungs out and I shoved the rest of the rice as hurriedly I could and that is what happened.

Q2 – Why are you staring at walls in your free time?

A2 – I keep thinking what to do next, take a break from work or resume the corporate job, if so how to and when. Also I keep thinking I should start a yoga routine and stick to it for a week at least and then when I finally decide I will wake up early the next day come what may how I end up wallowing in self pity because I get my period. Uncanny coincidence.

Q3 – Instead of staring at the walls you could use the time to do something, no?

A3 – I did! I cleaned the wardrobe and dressing table twice, stacked away all the unused clothes away, reorganized all my documents and certificates and journals and tried to keep stuff out of reach from Moo.

Q4 – Did you read anything?

A4 – Reread ‘The Devotion of Suspect X’. That is all. Sigh.

Q5 – So what useful thing you did over the summer?

A5 – Ha, asking as if the summer is over 🙄 Well, the last three months saw many trips to places and visits with Moo – so much so she is ready to jump into any car she sees, thinking its time to travel again. From temples to beaches to hill stations, the little tyke has seen it all. Hosting over people because it is vacation time – taking them around the city and shopping because I am free like that – how I wish I had a job to escape the relatives onslaught 😥

Q6 – Its been over three or four months since you blogged, you forgot that you have a blog?

A6 – Why are you asking me everything as if you do not know anything. Where was the internet huh? And the laptop? Two days of using the browser on phone only made my eyes pain, how to read and write in peace when you have six kids under seven hanging around you and screeching ‘new game today, new game today’. When I did have the laptop with me for few hours, I saw Game of Thrones 🙄 🙄 🙄

Q7 – What do you want to do next in your life?

A7 – I want to do something for sure, but do not have an idea how-when-what.

Q8 – And now suddenly you will have time for whatever you want to do?

A8 – Of course, vacations are over and schools start today. All guests are gone and the laptop now has dedicated time towards moi :evil laugh:

Q9 – Your daughter is now getting more attached to you than anybody else, isnt it?

A9 – I think it is long overdue. Sigh.

P.S I have missed being here as much as I miss my mummy’s daal and sambar. See all of you soon 🙂

No matter how

..long you have been away from your hometown, you are happy being there, soaking in everything, from the fresh masala vadas to the late night gossip sessions.

..the streets and highways are crowded, a road trip has its own charm.

..you have lost touch with your relatives, their welcoming smile makes you forget everything and takes you back to your childhood, when you used to run around them asking for this and that.

..its been ages since you got the chance to dress up for an occasion, its exciting when the opportunity presents itself and you lap it up.

..you eat idli everyday at home, its combination with vada and three chutneys at a hotel is irresistable.

..I tie the saree, I just cannot get it perfect, sigh!

..how soft the beds in hotels and other’s homes are, the best comforting sleep you get is on your own, in your bedroom.

P.S We are back, will be stalking all your blogs soon 🙂