With the advent of numerous devices to stay constantly connected to the virtual world, it has drastically reduced the couple time between us. The other times when we could have spent quality time together invariably end up with discussions of the daughter – what she did, her latest tantrums, etc..etc.. It is not quite uncommon for us to exchange WhatsApp chats like “Has the dragon slept?” even when we are a room apart. Zack comes in home at 9:30 and Moo vehemently refuses to go to sleep unless she had her fair share of daddy time. By the time she falls asleep which is around 11, Zack goesΒ neck deep in his laptop in the melee of catching up with news, movies and when not doing all of these things – WhatsApp-ing. His office has such an internet policy which debars him from using social media and basically accessing all things which can be classified under time-pass.

Before we owned the laptop and internet at home, we used to do stuff together- like talk about what happened at work, who got hitched, good vacation spots, family get the drift. But that was the time before we had Moo. With her arrival, the equations have changed completely. There is a lot more me-time than us-time. From the time Moo wakes up, Zack looks after her till he leaves for work – making her eat breakfast, taking her for walks, putting her to sleep and playing with her. During that time, I finish the household work, cooking, cleaning and sit down for some time reading the newspapers. At night, when I am done with all the work and ready to make the little dragon go to sleep, he leaves us two to ourselves. I cherish this period which I spend with Moo. I (try to) tell her stories, play peekaboo, sing lullabies and finally when she is tired, she comes to me and sleeps on my lap. I am half asleep by the time all the lights are switched off. I was not this tired at the end of the day when Moo was still an infant. Once she started walking, there is not a place which has been undiscovered by her, which does not involve pulling things and throwing them all around, eating and putting all things in mouth except her food, squealing and running away from me when I find her holding something which is not her toy and I admit it tires me out completely at the end of the day. When I speak about the lack of spending time with Zack, he in his zen mode states – “You should rest when she rests.”

So what I think is if we had no smartphones, laptops, basically no internet, we would find at least some time for ourselves. Thank God for weekends, were we go out together for walks or I would have resorted to changing the internet password πŸ‘Ώ 😈


Sum, equation and language

Apart from the money calculations, we really have no use of the maths in our day-to-day lives. But we see the applications of those mathematical formulas in every possible aspect, right from the clocks to the vehicles to the water tap to the food we eat.Β  So even if we as an individual are not applying those formulas ourselves, at least some one in this world made use of them. We just did not choose to.
Knowledge is interesting, applied knowledge – even more.

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The relationships which we have in our personal and professional lives should be given the due respect. With a boss, you should always behave like a junior even though he/she is your friend. You can discuss whatever you want in the capacity of a friend, but you should not take it out of your mind that the other person is the boss at the end of the day. Likewise, your mother-in-law might be ‘like’ your mother, but that does not give you the freedom to sulk( or shout) the way you do to your mom. The thin line which you feel is ever decreasing, day by day should not be overlooked. That line stays, the respect in the relationship is maintained. Disagree? Well, its my opinion πŸ˜€

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It has been a really long time since I wrote something in vernacular. I keep thinking that I will forget the shape of the letters and the grammar. The last time I was in a flight, I spent close to fifteen minutes writing out a small paragraph in Gujarati. That also reminds me, ages ago I read a very engrossing historical fiction in Hindi. It was my first and last read in anything apart from English and boy, how interesting that was. Any recommendations in Hindi literature?

Clash lack

One thought is bothering me for a long time. Especially when I observe other couples around me, amongst friends and family having disagreements with each other, rising decibel levels when they talk, lowered patience levels and to sum it all, having fights.

We never fight.
And I do not know if it is good or bad 😐

I have read many articles* which say fighting couples are in a healthy relationship. The difference of opinion brings them closer. The kinds.

But the most we ‘fight’ is not talk with each other. How is the problem or issue sorted out?One gives in by the way of explaining things calmly while the other listens patiently. The night passes. Morning everything is forgotten and forgiven. And we move on. Bad words and swearing never occur, nor do name-calling.Β  Shouting at each other will not happen in this lifetime because its loudness makes me cringe.

This morning when we were stuck up at the traffic jam, I was mentioning to Zack how come we never fight with each other, unlike other usual couples. Immediately he said, “But you cried your eyes out two weeks ago”. “Yeah, but it was not your fault”, I shot back. The guy becomes all smug now.”So I am the model husband who never fights with the wife”. “Because you have a very non-confrontational wife”, I explained :mrgreen:

So it comes down to this – is it normal amongst guys never to fight or is it me who is having a dysfunctional relationship with the partner πŸ™„ πŸ™„

*Few links here, here and here